We all have those days or weeks when everything goes to plan. The sun’s shining, you’ve nailed the to do list and finally the weekend is approaching. Nothing can take the spring out of your step or put a dampener on your day. Then boom….
It just simply arrives.
It hits you like a steam train.
There’s nothing you can do about it.
You just have to get on with it.
It’s very easy to sit here and say you just have to get on with it but in reality that’s hard. The key is learning how to deal with it, so it doesn’t impact your life as much as you initially think it will.
Find an escape or vent.
Get it out of your system. Cry, scream, shout or talk to someone who will listen and not judge. Do whatever it takes (within the law!) to get it out of your system. I find going fishing or out on my bike is the best medicine. It gives me the space to clear my head and temporarily takes my mind off whatever is going on in my life.
Deal with it.
Shit needs to be dealt with. For as long as I can remember I’ve always been the one who made the effort to see my dad or take my son to see him. I thought it was important to maintain a relationship with him. It was never reciprocated. He never made the effort to see me or Ben. 3.5 years ago I walked out of his house and said to my wife ‘I’m going to just see how long it takes for my dad to contact me before I see him again’. He still hasn’t and we only live 2 miles away from him! I’ve simply realised that he doesn’t add any value to mine or my son’s life. My wife struggles with this as she is very close to her family, but over time I’ve found it very easy to not worry about a man who doesn’t give a shit about his son or grandson. It means I have more positive energy to spend on those who love and appreciate me and my son.
Deal with any shit thrown your way so that it doesn’t ruin the wonderful things that you do have in your life. These are the areas where you should focus your time and effort.
Learn from it.
Whatever happened yesterday is done (fact). Obviously you won’t forget it, but try to learn from it. On the other hand, if you screwed up then take responsibility for your actions and move on with your life. Learn from your mistakes and make sure it doesn’t happen again. Definitely don’t allow yourself to get all twisted up and remain bitter from something that didn’t work out.
Don’t dwell on it.
It’s a natural reaction to dwell on any kind of shit that is thrown our way. It can shock, upset and even anger us to the point where it feels like our blood is boiling (this is natural adrenaline injecting into the heart). However, life is far too short to waste your time and energy over something that’s happened and can’t be undone. Stressing about it is not going to make the situation any better. The more time you spend keeping busy and doing the things you enjoy, the less time you spend on destructive and unhappy thoughts.
Put it behind you.
All kinds of shit happens throughout your lifetime. That’s how life works. It doesn’t say anything about the type of person you are, but it will pull you down if you don’t move forward positively. Whether it’s a relationship breakdown, a lost job, being let down by a parent or friend, or your plans didn’t work, don’t let it define who you are or ruin you.
Take the leap of faith. Make the Change. Not tomorrow. Not next week, but NOW.