At some point in our lives we all face difficult and challenging times. Resilience helps us maintain balance and cope during stressful periods. Sometimes the most painful of things, help our resilience grow. Resilience isn’t just the ability to bounce back, it’s how we adapt in challenging circumstances. Resilient people tend to have a more positive outlook and cope with stress more effectively. They acknowledge an issue, learn from it and move on.
How to build your resilience:
1. Be flexible. If you are more adaptable you may find that you can react to a crisis in a more positive way. Be prepared for life to throw things at you, embrace the change and roll with it.
2. Be more assertive. Try being more straight forward and assertive. If somebody is being unreasonable towards you, tell them how you feel and just say no.
3. Reach out. There is no shame in asking for help, we all need it from time to time. Spending time with and confiding in people who you can rely on, can help you feel more positive. You never know, they may be able to help.
4. Set and move toward your goals. Develop some realistic goals. Start small, recognise that you have accomplished something and be proud of yourself.
5. Be optimistic. Always remain hopeful. Understand that setbacks are temporary and that you can deal with the challenges that confront you. Think about what you want, rather than worrying about what you fear.
6. Improve your self esteem. Resilient people are confident. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones such as “I can”, “I will”, “Yes”. Being more confident in your own abilities will build your resilience and increase your ability to deal with difficult issues.
7. Look after yourself. Make time for you. Do activities that you enjoy and learn how to manage stress. If you take care of yourself, you will be able to cope better with the challenges in your life.
The American inventor, Thomas Edison said “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work”. His resilience gave us some amazing inventions, imagine if he had given up!
Work on building your resilience. Small progress is better than no progress.
Make the Change!