SHIT HAPPENS
We all have those days or weeks when everything goes to plan. The sun’s shining, you’ve nailed the to do list and finally the weekend is approaching. Nothing can take the spring out of your step or put a dampener on your day. Then boom….
Shit happens.
It just simply arrives.
No warnings.
It hits you like a steam train.
There’s nothing you can do about it.
You just have to get on with it.
Sound familiar?
It’s easy to sit here and say you just have to get on with it but in reality that’s hard. The key is learning how to deal with it so it doesn’t impact your life as much as you initially think it will. Don’t let any shit thrown your way ruin the wonderful things that you do have in your life. Those are the areas where you should focus your time and effort.
Find an escape or vent.
Get it out of your system. Cry, scream, shout or talk to someone who will listen and not judge. Do whatever it takes (within the law!) to get it out of your system. I find going fishing or out on my mountain bike the very best medicine. It gives me the space to clear my head and temporarily takes my mind off whatever is going on in my life.
Learn from it.
Whatever happened yesterday is done. You can’t do anything to change the actual event. Obviously you won’t forget it, but try to learn from it. On the other hand, if you screwed up then take responsibility for your actions and move on with your life. Learn from your mistakes and make sure it doesn’t happen again. Definitely don’t allow yourself to get all twisted up and remain bitter from something that didn’t work out.
Don’t dwell on it.
It’s a natural reaction to dwell on any kind of shit that is thrown our way. It can shock, upset and even anger us to the point where it feels like our blood is boiling (this is natural adrenaline injecting into the heart). However, life is far too short to waste your time and energy over something that’s happened and can’t be undone. Stressing about it is not going to make the situation any better. The more time you spend keeping busy and doing the things you enjoy, the less time you spend on destructive and unhappy thoughts.
Put it behind you.
All kinds of shit happens throughout your lifetime. That’s how life works. It doesn’t say anything about the type of person you are, but it will pull you down if you don’t move forward positively. Whether it’s a relationship breakdown, a lost job, being let down by a parent or friend, or your plans didn’t work, DO NO LET IT DEFINE YOU OR RUIN WHO YOU ARE.
What are you waiting for? Take the leap of faith. Make the Change. Not tomorrow. Not next week, but NOW.
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Chris